Saturday, May 14, 2016

Kev's Fave Athletes of All-Time

#25: Roger Staubach.

Commentary: If you were a child of the 1970's who loved football, there's a strong chance you dreamed of being Roger Staubach when you grew up. Whether you loved the Dallas Cowboys or hated 'em, 'Captain America' was fun to watch...........and one heck of a quarterback as well. Super Bowl 13 (Pittsburgh vs. Dallas) stands as the most vivid and entertaining championship football game from my childhood.
#24: Andre Agassi

Commentary: I'll be the first to admit I wasn't a fan of Agassi's at the start of his career (Remember the vain 'Image is everything' ad campaign?), but as time passed, he won me over. Agassi's baseline game was incomparable, and he produced countless shots over the years that got me jumping out of my chair. His quarterfinal battle vs. Pistol Pete in the 2001 U.S. Open (Sampras won 6-7, 7-6, 7-6, 7-6) remains one of the most entertaining matches of my lifetime.
#23: Terry Bradshaw

Commentary: The Pittsburgh Steelers of the 1970's were a team for the ages, and I was fascinated by their leader under center. The long bombs to Swann and Stallworth are memories that will be forever etched in my brain, along with Bradshaw coming off the field with his index finger in the air after Pittsburgh beat the Rams in Super Bowl 14. Teaser: The list has a half dozen signal callers in all, with the third of those six upcoming next.
#22: Peyton Manning

Commentary: The combination of his magnificent QB play, the funny commercials ('Cut that meat! Cut that meat!'), and the impression that he was an all-around good guy pushed Peyton from 'Honorable Mention' status into the top 25. I'm not a Colts fan, but I went out of my way to watch their games in the 2000's countless times, simply because I was a fan of Manning. Now go celebrate Peyton's inclusion in the list by having a chicken parm and humming the song. You know you want to.

#21: Pete Rose


Commentary: Charlie Hustle's 44 game hitting streak mesmerized me in the summer of '78, but I of course knew who Pete Rose was before he made his historical run at DiMaggio's mark. His offensive prowess, the all out effort he brought to every contest, the fact he played on the Big Red Machine, and the longevity of his career were the key factors that enabled him to break into the top 25.
#20: Tony Dorsett

Commentary: 'America's Team' was on national t.v. a whole lot in the 70's and 80's, so if you were a football fan you really couldn't miss them or their star running back. I remember being in awe of Dorsett's speed and ability to juke would be tacklers, as well as spending time in the backyard trying to emulate his moves (and failing miserably). Teaser: Dorsett is the first of three running backs on the list, with the second one coming next
.#19: Earl Campbell

Commentary: This man terrorized NFL defenders in the late 70's/early 80's and to say I was in awe of his power and athleticism would be an understatement. Ten year old me was thoroughly convinced Earl could smash through a brick wall if it stood between him and the goal line, and 48 year old me really hasn't wavered much from that belief. Pre injury Bo Jackson and in his prime Earl Campbell were about as good as it gets when it comes to brute strength at the running back position in my book.
#18: Reggie Jackson

Commentary: I'm a bit too young to remember Reggie with the A's, but the memories I have of him with the Yankees and Angels remain vivid in my mind. The three homer performance in game six of the '77 Series was a jaw dropper (literally), and there was high drama when Welch struck him out in game two of the Series the next year as well. In short, I didn't leave the room when Reggie stepped into the batter's box, because I was afraid I'd miss something spectacular.
#17: Jimmy Connors

Commentary: To say this guy had plenty of fight in him would be a vast understatement. Jimmy really won me over when he defeated one of my all-time sports villains (Ivan Lendl) in back to back U.S. Open finals ('82 and '83). Of course his magical run in the '91 Open captivated myself and countless others and one moment from his fourth round match that year remains the single most incredible point I've ever seen on a tennis court (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Ubnh3vd5qk). I rooted for him in every match, sans the times he was playing a certain fellow American left-hander. Sidenote: 'Jimmy Connors Saved My Life' by Joel Drucker is a must read for any and all Jimbo fans out there.
#16: Joe Montana

Commentary: 17 year old me felt 'Joe Cool' had the perfect life in 1984: Quarterback of the best team in the league, millions of dollars in the bank, countless adoring fans, and a beautiful wife as well. Montana led San Francisco to four Super Bowl titles and had a remarkable career. I watched the 92 yard drive he led to win his third ring (Super Bowl 23) over the 'Who Dey' Bengals in my college dorm room, and it remains my favorite Montana related memory.
 #15: Dan Marino

Commentary: Marino was an incredibly talented quarterback (and the only one to beat the vaunted '85 Bear defense) who had swag long before the term became a thing. He caught my eye immediately upon joining the league and I followed his career throughout, marveling at his quick release and overall passing proficiency. It's true he never won a ring, but it's also true Miami never provided him with a good enough defense to do so. What I would have given to see #13 under center for *my* team. Sigh.
#14: George Brett

Commentary: His timing really couldn't have been better: Brett's rise to stardom began right at the time I was old enough to understand what I was seeing and his greatness lasted until I graduated from college. 12 year old me followed his run at .400 in the summer of '80, and when he finally got his ring in '85, I was overjoyed for him. Along with the .390 season, my most vivid Brett memories are his playoff heroics vs. the Yankees, his brawl with Nettles in the '77 ALCS, the news of his infamous battle with hemorrhoids during the '80 Series, and his maniacal run from the dugout in the Pine Tar game.
#13: Rod Carew

Commentary: Dude. Could. RAKE. When his Twins (and later, Angels) were on television, I did everything I could to make sure I was watching. His swing was so smooth, so productive, so....................Rodney Cline. Carew won four straight batting titles from '72-'75, then won two more in '77 and '78, a stat I still find astounding. 11 year old me couldn't understand how or why Minnesota let him get away (although I was relieved he landed in California and not in Yankee pinstripes), especially just one year after the man hit .388! I've watched a ton of baseball games over the years and he's one of only a handful of guys that, when he stepped into the batter's box, made me feel a base hit was imminent.
#12: Scottie Pippen

Commentary: Pippen was the jelly to MJ's peanut butter and a wonderful player in his own right. The defensive quickness and how a steal could translate to a fast break score in a blink was my favorite part of Scottie's game. Bulls' games were an *event* in my life from the mid 80's 'til the championship team broke up in '97. Without #33 on the scene over those years, the whole MJ narrative that sports fans know so well could (would?) be a whole lot different than what it is today.
#11: Mike Schmidt

Commentary: Schmidt wreaked havoc on N.L. pitchers throughout his career. In fact, I saw him as the Babe Ruth of the 1970's/80's through my childhood lens. 50 of his homers were hit in Wrigley Field (a pair of which came in the epic 23-22 game) and he had 124 career RBI's in the Friendly Confines as well. The ultimate Cub killer didn't leave me angry though. Rather, he left me full of awe and envy. Schmidt and Brett at the hot corner and in their primes during my childhood = One lucky, spoiled baseball fan in Aurora, Illinois.
#10: Pedro Martinez

Commentary: Over the course of the 1999 and 2000 seasons, Pedro reached an absurd level of excellence on the mound, leaving me in absolute awe. I did my best to watch him as often as possible for approximately 6-7 years of his career because I knew at the time that what I was seeing was beyond special. His performance in the 1999 All-Star game is a personal favorite, along with his 17 strikeout/one hitter against the Yankees that same season. The Red Sox/Yankee rivalry was in full fledged hate mode during that time period and Pedro was an integral part, with the highlight (lowlight?) coming the time a 70 something year old man tried to chase him down on the diamond in 2003. What it was all about more than anything else for me though was the fact I absolutely *loved* watching this man pitch.

 #9: Fran Tarkenton

Commentary: At some point in the mid 70's I became old enough to understand the basics of sports. At that time, there was an average sized man who was the  quarterback of the Minnesota Vikings. I witnessed this man running around in circles while being chased by very large, mean looking men who wanted to tackle him, yet time and again he would completely outwit them by eluding their grasp and completing a pass to a teammate or running for a first down. I became infatuated with this man because he was so different from his peers, who were mostly drop back passers. His jersey was also my favorite color, and on top of it all he was very good at what he did for a living. In short, Fran Tarkenton was my very first sports hero.
#8: Magic Johnson

Commentary: I don't recall watching the Magic vs. Bird NCAA title game, thus Showtime's leader first caught my eye when I read about how he led his team to victory over the 76'ers in the 1980 Finals. The Lakers/Celtics rivalry drew me completely into the NBA shortly thereafter, and Magic was my favorite player until #23 arrived in Chicago in '84. Johnson's incomparable passing ability, upbeat personality, and the success his Lakers achieved were the ways he won me over. The shock of his HIV-positive announcement is one of those 'Remember where you were at the moment you heard' snapshots of my life; I was convinced he'd be dead within 3-5 years after hearing it. Magic obviously was an incredible basketball player and again, timing was on my side in that I was old enough to understand what was happening as his whole career unfolded before my eyes.

#7: Tiger Woods

Commentary: I watched very little golf before Tiger Woods; I do have memories of watching a handful of players before his professional career began (Watson, Nicklaus, Norman, Faldo), but other than Jack's '86 Masters win those memories are spotty at best. Tiger's arrival on the scene changed everything for me when it came to golf; that arrival occurred for myself (and countless others) with the stunning Masters win in '97. As with all of the athletes in this top ten, if I knew he'd be on t.v. I would arrange my personal schedule so that I could watch him perform. It's safe to say that if I were a golf nut before Tiger's arrival, he'd be ranked higher. However, the fact an athlete from a sport of only mild personal interest made this top ten list is a testament to the awesomeness of Tiger.


#6: Roger Federer

Commentary: It's good to be the king. The Swiss Maestro was just that for the bulk of the 2000's, to the point where I'd do a double take when he actually lost a match. While it's true he dominated, it was his accompanying silky smooth style of play that drew me and so many others to him. The 2008 Wimbledon final is the greatest match I've ever watched and despite the loss, I classify it as one of Roger's finest performances. His win over Andy Roddick in the 2009 Wimbledon final was a great match as well, and when Fed won Wimbledon in 2012 I was overjoyed for him. As his incomparable career winds down I'm cherishing the times I see him on court these days because I most certainly do not expect to ever see another tennis player even remotely like Roger Federer ever again.


#5: Rafael Nadal

Commentary: In 2005 I watched a 19 year old kid win the French Open. I was impressed, but wasn't hooked as a mega fan........yet. A few years later came the 2008 Wimbledon final vs. Federer, a match I never really thought Nadal would win until he actually *did* come out on top, 9-7 in the fifth. My infatuation with him began over the course of that historic final. From that point on, his matches became mega events in my home, with me yelling, 'RAFA!' at the end of big points that went his way. I'd root for him so intensely that tears of joy would fall more often than not when he came out on top at the end of big matches, *especially* those vs. Djokovic. My (un?)healthy obsession with Rafael Nadal tennis matches probably won't last much longer though, as he's nearing the end of his wonderful career. Alas, I'm sure I have a few more 'Vamos!' yells in me before he hangs up his racket for good. Long live the King of Clay, in the tennis world and beyond.
#4: Walter Payton

Commentary: My first memories of Sweetness come from a mid 70's game in which he catapulted over the pile at the goal line to score a touchdown. I also remember him being the Bears' entire offense in the 70's, with the most extreme example coming 11/20/77: Payton carried the ball 40 times for 275 yards that day, while Bob Avellini attempted six passes the entire game. His running style was unique, powerful, and effective; when he would kick those legs up in mid run, it felt like poetry in motion. Sweetness got his Super Bowl ring with the '85 team, but felt cheated because he didn't score a TD in the big game. Two years later there was the famous shot of him on the bench with his head in his hands immediately after the '87 playoff loss to the Redskins, the last game of his career. A dozen years after that he was gone at age 45, which I still find hard to believe. The man could run, block, catch, and even throw.

Walter Jerry Payton is the single greatest football player I've ever seen.
#3: Ryne Sandberg

Commentary: Forget adoration: 16 year old me wanted to *be* Ryne Sandberg when I grew up. The everyday nature of baseball meant I got to watch a whole lot of Ryno in action over the years. It was his defense in particular that amazed me; so smooth, so guile, so................error free (nine Gold Gloves!). I watched 'The Sandberg Game' with my friend Todd Hayden in my parents' living room in June of '84 and I recall both of us yelling, screaming, and running all over the house after he hit each of the two homers to tie the contest. I especially loved how Harry Caray would heap praise on him, day after day, game after game. His 40 homer season in 1990 was something to behold, especially coming from a second baseman.  To me, Sandberg was the real life version of 'The Natural', and he is unquestionably my all-time baseball idol.
 #2: John McEnroe

Commentary: Yes, he had a horrible temper. Yes, he could act like a jerk on the court. I didn't care then and I DON'T. CARE. NOW. McEnroe's talent was what drew me to him. The rocking serve motion, the quick hands at the net, and his overall touch and precision were all mystifying to me. The '80 Wimbledon final was the moment I fell in love with the sport of tennis and the love affair continues to this day. My favorite McEnroe matches (outside of the aforementioned classic) were every time he topped Ivan Lendl, his '81 Wimbledon triumph over Borg, his marathon Davis Cup win over Wilander in '82 (six hours!), and his five set victory over Connors at the U.S. Open in '84, the culmination of the greatest day of tennis of my life (http://2014.usopen.org/en_US/news/articles/2014-09-06/the_most_super_saturday_of_them_all.html?promo=rss). These days I enjoy his insightful commentary during big matches and also watch him play against other retired greats in the Power Share series. Thanks to youtube I'm able to go back in time and enjoy his old matches at my leisure and I must say, it still tickles me every time he beats Lendl!
#1: Michael Jordan

Commentary: I saw MJ hit the winning shot in the '82 NCAA title game, but he fully entered my radar when I saw him throw down a mind blowing dunk in a game vs. Maryland in '84 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WMOlqgoHgPE). When he landed on the Bulls in the '84 draft I was tickled, but of course I had no idea just how good he'd turn out to be. By the time '87 or so rolled around Bulls games had become full fledged events in my life and my best guess is I watched about 95% of their games from that point forward. 'The Shot' against Cleveland in the '89 playoffs was a landmark moment, but there were oh so many more. When they finally downed the Pistons in the '91 Eastern Conference Finals I was elated. When they beat the Lakers in the ensuing Finals and showed MJ hugging that trophy, it was the first time I cried tears of joy for a sports related event. The tears flowed again with the ensuing titles, with a special moment that saw exuberant father (my Dad) embrace emotional son (30 year old me) seconds after the '98 Finals were in the books in there as well. The commercials, the incredible athleticism, the dominant performances, the drive to win, the six trophies.........it was all a dream come true for this lifelong sports fan. I've never rooted so passionately, so frequently, or had the ultimate level of emotional investment in an athlete as I had for Michael Jeffrey Jordan.



Saturday, January 16, 2016

Sports Board Games: Your Entertainment Dollar Maximized



          Perhaps you're contemplating a potential purchase of a new game or card set/yearbook for your favorite sports board game. Perhaps you're thinking the price tag is a bit too high for your liking. Let's take an in depth look at the value one can enjoy when it comes to such a purchase and how that purchase compares to other activities one could choose when it comes to spending his/her entertainment dollars.

          First, I have three 'real life' examples to share. The breakdown for each:

          Last winter I purchased two tickets to my first 'Blue Man Group' show. Each ticket's price: $75. The show ran about two hours, so this means I paid $75 an hour for my entertainment that afternoon.

          A friend and I went to a Brewers game last summer. Tickets were $40 apiece, parking was $10, and lunch before the game was $30. Total cost: $120. Lunch took about a half an hour and the game ran over three hours, so we'll say the total amount of time for both was four hours. That comes out to $30 an hour for my entertainment that afternoon.

          Last fall my son and I golfed 18 holes at a city course near my home. Greens fees were $50 and cart rental was $16, so the total cost was $66. We were on the course for approximately three hours, so I paid $22 an hour for my entertainment that day (and this doesn't include the original purchase of the golf clubs!).

          And now, the cost breakdown for three different board games that I own:

          This past November I completed a full 162 games per team season using APBA Baseball. A card set runs approximately $70 with shipping. It takes me a half hour to play a game with full stats. My full season saw a schedule of over 1,900 games, plus post season games. If I round off to 2,000 games total for the season, it means that I invested about 1,000 hours to that project. The APBA Baseball game itself was $30. Entertainment value per hour? 10 cents. Yes, 10 cents. But alas, my project saw me using various teams from 1970-1979, which means I spent $700 on cards for ten card sets, not the $70 for just one set. Sounds like a lot until you do the math and see it still comes out to just 73 cents per hour for my entertainment value.



          I own Second Season football and paid $40 for the game. A yearbook's cost is $28 and I own a dozen of them, so total cost invested in the game to date is $376. I've played approximately 300 games to date and each game takes an average of 90 minutes to play with full stats. Total amount of game time: 450 hours. 84 cents per hour for my entertainment value.



          I have owned Digging Deep Tennis for several years now. I bought the men's all-time great set with the game and I believe I paid $30 in all. I average about 40 minutes per match and in looking over my past tournaments, I'd guesstimate that I've played 150 matches to date. So I've invested 100  hours of my time and thus have paid 30 cents per hour for my entertainment value.



          Conclusion? Sports board games are not only a blast, they are a steal when it comes to entertainment value! Now go ahead and click 'buy' on that game or card set you've been contemplating! It'll be worth every penny!

         


          

Friday, July 17, 2015

Mary Alice

            Somewhere around a year after I moved into my current residence, I came upon a flyer in the teacher's lounge on my way out the door for the weekend. It was put there by a co-worker who was looking to downsize from four cats to three. There was a picture of the feline she was giving away. On a whim, I grabbed it and took it home with me.

            I showed it to the boys, who were ages 5, 6, and 13 at the time, asking them if they wanted a cat. All three flipped out, just as you would expect young children to do when they saw a picture of a cute little kitty and their Dad asks them if they wanted to have a new pet. After this initial exchange I thought to myself:

            'What have I just done?'

            I wasn't completely sure I even wanted a cat. We already had a shih tzu and besides that, I had never been a cat owner before. I told the boys we'd go down and pick the cat up and give her a trial run, but if she and Annabelle didn't get along, we'd have to return the cat. All three nodded in agreement.

            We picked her up from a house with a single mother and three girls. They had named the cat Mary Alice. The boys thought it was funny that she had such a girly name. She was two years old and seemed nice enough, so we brought her home.

            When we arrived I put her down and watched ten pound Annabelle go right up to her with tail wagging, ready to make a new friend. Mary took one look at her and SWIPE! She bopped the dog on the nose with her paw, sending the now former queen of the house into a back pedal the likes of which I had not seen until that moment.

            15 minutes later they were both on separate couch cushions, oblivious to the other one's presence. The fighting was over with one swipe. Mary Alice had a new home.

            I fell in love with Mary over time. Sassiness was her middle name, but she also loved to sit on my lap for cuddles and would 'talk' to myself and the boys frequently. In short, she became a beloved member of our family.

            Annabelle passed away about three years after Mary's arrival and Star joined us a couple of years after that. Mary didn't care for Star at first, but over time Star learned that Mary needed her space and they co existed peacefully. Mary remained the queen of the castle.

            Tonight, the end is near for our beloved pet. She's quite ill and the decision to relieve her of her suffering is one that has not come easy, yet it's something that has to be done.
           
            Pet owners completely understand how these critters become family members. It's emotionally crushing when their time is up. I've had several people tell me in the last few weeks what a wonderful life we've given Mary, and those words have helped to ease the blow a bit. Writing this out is therapeutic for me also. It's helping me think more about the wonderful times I've had with this animal and less about what will happen come tomorrow.

            If there is such thing as kitty heaven, I know Mary will be a part of it come tomorrow and beyond. I will miss her and of course will always remember her. We may have given her a good life, but she gave all that and more right back to us.




           

           

           


            

Sunday, April 26, 2015

Purdue

        Shortly after my son turned two, my wife and I received an informational flyer from the Janesville School District via mail. The flyer listed some upcoming screening dates for pre school aged children whom the parents felt may be experiencing developmental difficulties, i.e.-'at risk' students.



        After some discussion with my spouse, I decided to take Eric over to the school for testing. When I arrived that day, I explained that I was not there for an at risk screening. Rather, I was there to gather more information on where Eric fell when it came to intelligence, as he had been doing and saying things from around his first birthday on that seemed very advanced to me. I emphasized that I was not there to 'brag' or anything of the sort. I simply wanted to find out if my son was advanced for his age because if so, I could use that information to instruct him at an optimum level.

        Eric tested out at somewhere around a four and a half year old intelligence wise. I remember driving home after that testing and talking with him while thinking:

 'OK, so I'm not crazy after all. Who knows, this kid may be going places in life one day.'

        One day.

        Eric is now just a couple months short of his 18th birthday. About 20 minutes ago, he accepted a scholarship to attend Purdue University come this August. He has amazed me throughout his entire life, but it was that specific moment in time back in 1999 that is stuck in my mind today. It was the first time I thought to myself that he may be headed for great things in life.

        This is an emotional moment for me. I am proud of him beyond measure and yet, I don't want him to go. I miss the child he used to be, yet I embrace the man he's become.

More importantly though, that 'one day'..........has arrived.



       

            

Sunday, January 18, 2015

Pride

          I play a card and dice board game called, 'APBA Baseball'. One can use players/teams from any era in baseball history, but my interest lately has been with teams from the 1970's.

        The other day I was playing a game with the 1975 Reds when Ken Griffey came to bat. For some reason, my mind left the current game on the tabletop and jumped to a time when Griffey was near the end of his career, specifically 1990. At that time he was with the Seattle Mariners and he and his son made history when they became the first father/son tandem to play together in a major league baseball game.



        My youngest son turns 16 next month. Ryan is a sophomore in high school and truly an amazing young man. He recently began taking driver's ed. classes and with that, he and I have started doing some practice driving.

        During one of our recent outings there was a quiet moment in between instruction. There was no radio noise, no oncoming traffic, not a sound other than the soft humming of the engine. I looked over at him and felt a lightning bolt hit me, one filled with parental pride. I was sitting next to my incredible son. He was embarking on yet another stage of growing up. Another stage within the countless number that I've been fortunate enough to witness first hand.



        What did Ken Griffey feel when he looked over from his adjacent position in the outfield to see his son standing there? I'm sure it had to be pride.

        Perhaps Griffey had flashbacks to earlier times as I often do, such as one that saw his son as an infant learning to crawl, as a toddler giggling in reaction to a read aloud book, as an elementary school student unloading his book bag after school, as a Little Leaguer putting on his uniform, or as a high schooler sitting at a desk in his bedroom, immersed in homework.

        I first saw my son on February 26th, 1999. It was unequivocal love at first sight, the kind of love that is not only unconditional, but indescribable as well. In those first moments that I held him, I felt an overwhelming sense of pride. That pride resonates today, as it has every other day for the past 16 years.

        Today, even when I'm fully immersed in a board game in an otherwise empty home, my mind jumps to my children. They are with me all of the time, even when they're not with me physically.

Parenthood. The single greatest journey of my life.



        

Monday, December 22, 2014

A pair of trips. A journey of a lifetime.

            Yesterday my boys and I traveled to my hometown to celebrate Christmas with my parents, siblings, and extended family. The drive to Aurora takes about an hour and forty minutes, so there's plenty of time for discussion if indeed one is not alone. Ryan and Tyler sat in back and alternated between gaming and snoozing. 17 year old Eric sat in front and luckily for me, was wide awake and interested in conversing the whole way.

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            A dozen years ago I made that same drive to Aurora. For reasons I can't remember, my five year old son was my only passenger that day (a rarity for me to travel with just one child). I remember that trip clearly. Eric was extremely talkative and inquisitive, asking how the roads we were driving on were built, who constructed the telephone poles in the distance, why the toll booths were there, and more. In fact, he was so chatty during that trip that I recall being relieved we had arrived so I could get a temporary reprieve from answering question after question.  I gladly handed his inquiring mind over to my mother, who was more than willing to give me a break and shower her grandson with love and attention.

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            Topics that came up for discussion during this most recent trip included the soaring cost of attaining a college education, the recent ambush of two New York police officers, the Google executive's recent space jump, and even the story of how I came to meet his mother back in 1995. Eric's insight, intelligence, and inquisitiveness were present as always. That 100 minute drive has proven to be boring countless times in the past. Eric flipped the script and made it a pleasure this time around.

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            A decade plus has passed between these two trips. During a long walk this morning I started thinking about some of the different things, places, and impactful people that have become a part of my life's journey between then and now. I jotted them down when I got home and the list included things such as common core, knee osteoarthritis, Facebook, a polar vortex, youtube, and Sirius XM radio. I had never heard of places such as Newtown, Connecticut and Ferguson, Missouri a dozen years ago and people such as Avery Elizabeth, Leah Monroe, Robert Christopher, Rafael Nadal, and Steve Bartman were either people I had never heard of or had yet to be born.

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            I love all of my children deeply, equally, and unconditionally, yet I find my recent thoughts focusing a bit more on Eric, simply because I know he'll be off to college come the fall of 2015. It's just so hard for me to come to the realization that the five year old boy from that aforementioned journey is now just several months away from leaving the nest. Every parent reading this can draw a parallel to their own path as a mother/father when it comes to knowing how quickly their offspring's childhood flies by. Every parent reading this would turn back the clock to experience those special moments once again if he/she were able to do so.

            As a father who has thoroughly enjoyed each and every stage of fatherhood, accepting the passage of time is a tough pill to swallow. Tonight I weep for joy at the memories I cherish, for sadness over Eric's impending flight from the nest, and  appreciation for both the blessings of fatherhood that He has already given me and for those yet to come. Tonight I weep for sadness that my offspring's childhoods are coming to an end. Tonight I weep for joy because no matter how much time passes, I will always be their father.




Saturday, November 15, 2014

Loss

          Sometimes you get news that throws you for a loop.
         
          There's a wonderful family restaurant located less than five minutes from my house. I've gone there around a half dozen times per year ever since I moved into my current residence 11+ years ago.

          At some point several years after I became a patron I met a young man who worked there. He was a host and would best be described as a kind, gentle soul. He was always friendly and we'd make small talk on occasion. He had a soft voice and a kind, genuine smile. I enjoyed our chats and admired his demeanor.

          Earlier this week I had a repairman out fixing my stove. Our conversation veered off from the repair job to his dinner plans for the evening once the job at my house was complete. He shared that he was headed over to that very restaurant by my house and I immediately commented on how struck I was by the kindness and soft spoken, gentle nature of the young man who works as a host there on occasion.

          After I mentioned this, the repairman paused for a minute and then asked for some further description of the individual I had just mentioned. Soon thereafter, he paused again and then said, 'He's not with us anymore.'

          He shared that the young man was over in Europe a few months ago and that he was killed in a motorcycle accident while there. I felt the breath leap out of my lungs when I heard these words. I was speechless. I was in shock. I think I still am.

          I've learned his name since I became aware of his passing. Betim looked to be in his early to mid 20's to me. Such a young life taken so early, cheated out of another 50+ years of living.

          I didn't know Betim that well at all. His father is the owner of the restaurant and I've only had brief conversations with him as well. Yet, for some reason this news has shaken me. I try not to think about the incomprehensible sadness and loss his father, family, and friends must be feeling, but I fail. This morning during my elliptical workout I had time to do nothing but think, and at some point in those 45 minutes I found myself with tears streaming down my cheeks, feeling such sadness for his loved ones.

          I've learned from past experience not to ask 'Why?' when it comes to death. I don't get anywhere with that question, so I don't ask it anymore. I do have a faith that I carry in good times and bad. It helps, but the sadness remains.

          Earlier this month I watched a clip that I had seen dozens of times before. It was from the movie, 'Dead Poets Society' and the line that sticks with me every time I view it on youtube is 'Carpe diem. Seize the day.'


          Seize the day. Betim certainly gave me the impression that he did just that during his far too short time on this Earth. 

I only wish he was given more sunrises to seize.